Some Tips For Heal Your Life
1. if you don't love your self you start self talking "I Love My Self (Your Name)"
2. Listen to your heart, You must give yourself permission to want what you really
want.
3. If you can't figure out what you really want, look
straight at your deepest fears. What's on the other side of them? That's what
you want.
4. Be grateful for your discomfort. The sad and weird thing
is that happy people are complacent. Feeling uncomfortable is the signal that
you're on the precipice of something new, and better, but you must take action.
5. Your new best friends will be structure and productivity.
6. "Irrational anxiety" is usually cured by doing
very practical things. The nonsensical things you worry about are usually
aggrandized projections of real concerns that you're not dealing with.
7. You must start where you are, you must use what you have,
and you must do what you can. if you don't know for this answer then You start to heal
8. Make a conscious effort to connect and reconnect with the
people you already have in your life -- even if it's just one person you trust
and connect with.
9. Buy a notebook that is exclusively for junk journaling,
which is what you're going to do whenever you feel pretzeled up inside. Write
down whatever comes out -- whatever gruesome, awful, self-hating, embarrassing
thoughts come up, let them out. Once you do this a few times, you'll believe me
when I say this will release them.
10. The only thing you should ever try to do when you're
very anxious or panicked is to comfort yourself. You cannot think clearly, and
shouldn't make assumptions or decisions about your life in that state. Figure
out what soothes you (a snack, a bath, talking to someone, doing something you
really enjoy) and get yourself out that energy before you do anything else.
11. You will need to figure out how to live in the moment,
even if that seems boring, impossible, terrifying or all three. Anxiety is the
warning sign that we're too much in the past or the future - and being there is
affecting how we make choices in the present.
12. You will need to take action on the things that are
holding you back from pursuing the things you actually want. As Cheryl Strayed
says, "Real change happens on the level of the gesture. It's one person
doing one thing differently than they did before."
13. Read. If you don't read, it's not because you don't like
reading, it's because you haven't picked up anything that interests you. What
you read now will affect the person you're going to be for decades to come.
Read articles and essays online about how people cope with their fears -- in it
you will find camaraderie, how many strangers feel just as you do. Read about
things you don't understand, that scare you and fascinate you. Just read,
damnit.
14. You can change how you feel. This is something you must
remember. It's as simple as: "I want to feel differently about this, so I
am going to focus on a different aspect of it."
15. If you want to buy into the idea that you cannot
"choose" happiness or how you feel or what you think, you are condemning
yourself to an extremely hard life, and should stop reading now, because doing
those things is the only way to save yourself.
16. You will always have anxiety. You will always feel fear.
If you give a damn about your life, or if you're even playing the slightest bit
of attention to what's going on here, you'll know there's a lot to be anxious
and afraid of. The end goal is not to eliminate those feelings, but to
strengthen the mental muscle that will allow you to choose to be happy in spite
of them, not become paralyzed when they're present. That's all.
17. For some people, strengthening that muscle will require
a simple shift of perspective. For others, it will be years of medication and
therapy and more work and effort than they've ever put into anything before. It
is the fight of all our lives and the thing we most owe to ourselves. If you're
going to pick a battle, pick this one.
18. The problem is not the problem. The problem is how you
think about the problem. Your internal guidance system is sounding off right
now because something isn't right. This doesn't mean you're barreling toward a
life of perpetual, unescapable suffering. It means somewhere deep down, you
know there's another way -- a better way -- to live. It means you know what you
want, even if you're scared of it.
19. You need to choose love. This sounds like annoying
advice but you cannot give up on the people who light you up inside, on the
things you love to do (even if they aren't work) on what you want for yourself.
You must choose love even if it scares you. (In fact, your fear about doing
something is proportionate to your love for it.)
20. You must learn how to express pain when you feel it.
This does not mean you can justify reckless, unchecked behavior, it means you
need to learn how to acknowledge your pain, communicate it clearly to others,
and deal with it as it comes up.
21. You must learn how to unravel whatever emotional
toxicity is built up inside you. For example: if you don't let yourself feel
and accept that you were hurt badly by your ex, you will constantly be
projecting ideas about how your new fling will hurt you and how you shouldn't
even try, thus re-creating the situation you're most afraid of. The unraveling
is seeing, feeling and accepting. Life is sometimes brutal and unfair and
unspeakably horrendous. (We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking
at the stars.)
22. Separate sensations in your body from what you think
they mean. When you're seriously upset, ask yourself, what do I actually feel
in my body right now? Like, what do I actually feel? Chances are it's nothing
more than just a little tension, or discomfort. The rest of your panic is
everything you've chalked that sensation up to mean.
23. Don't trust all of your feelings. Conventional wisdom
says to, but that's insane considering how many of those feelings stem from
irrational thoughts and past experiences and so on. If you blindly trust all of
your feelings, you will be thrown around by them constantly. Decide which ones
mean something and which don't.
24. Utilize the most powerful growing tool of all:
"future-self work." If you're on the fence about kids, imagine your
life at 75. Do you want your own family around you, or are you okay on your
own? Imagine your life in three years from now.
10 Self Motivating Tips
(2) Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Wisdom helps us avoid making mistakes and comes from making a million of them.
(3) Don’t indulge in self-limiting thinking. Think empowering, expansive thoughts.
(4) Choose to be happy. Happy people are easily motivated. Happiness is your birthright so don’t settle for anything else.
(5) Spend at least one hour a day in self-development. Read good books or listen to inspiring tapes. Driving to and from work provides an excellent opportunity to listen to self-improvement tapes.
(6) Train yourself to finish what you start. So many of us become scattered as we try to accomplish a task. Finish one task before you begin another.
(7) Live fully in the present moment. When you live in the past or the future you
aren’t able to make things happen in the present.
(8) Commit yourself to joy. C.S. Lewis once said, “Joy is the serious business of heaven.”
(9) Never quit when you experience a setback or frustration. Success could be just around the corner.
(10) Dare to dream big dreams. If there is anything to the law of expectation then we are moving in the direction of our dreams, goals and expectations.
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